Just food for thought. Think about it and let’s hear your thoughts on this.
If you are a guy reading this, please do continue and let me know in the comments if this theory is right or wrong. I was listening to an interview and found it very interesting. The guy that was being interviewed was Dr. Mwaka and he had interesting answers to the topic pertaining to why men cheat, how men are made, and what it means when a man cheats and if they can stay true to one woman.
How Men Are Wired
So Dr. Mwaka goes on and explains in his interview how men are wired. Men react and are drawn in by what they see while women react and are drawn in by words. He goes on to explain the making of a man and that men were made to always desire what they see. It is a primal instinct and were made to be chasing after different women. They see, they get curious and they go for it.
The interesting part is that a woman has 90 days where he has the attention of a man and after that time, he gets used to you and sees you like just any other woman. But he also says that within the 90 days, women should do something that even if he goes out there looking for it, he will never find
Dr. Mwaka says men never know what they are looking for. He gives the example of a man trapped in a house without a key. What the man will do is just look around the house to find something that is sharp and will fit to pick and unlock the door. So if you happen to be a fit then guess he has found what he had no idea he was looking for but if you are not, he throws you aside and continues looking.
So you are there thinking if you are in a relationship that your man will cheat because that’s how they are wired and that every man cheats. Well according to Dr. Mwaka, there’s no man yet who has been born that cannot cheat. So the question is, can men stop cheating or can you find a man who has chosen to be loyal to one woman and not cheat?
Can A Man Stop Cheating; Can A Man Not Cheat?
The answer is obviously yes. Yes, there are men out there that stay loyal to one woman and men that don’t cheat but it’s sad to say they are very few. You might ask yourself what is it that men who don’t cheat have that the others don’t. I never understood that either till when I listened to the interview.
When men cheat, it is out of their own stupidity and selfish reason and has nothing to do with the woman. It has nothing to do with the woman not being enough for him and all other excuses. What men want is the pleasure which any woman can provide so the woman not being enough shouldn’t be an excuse, Dr. Mwaka says. So if you are a woman reading this, if your guy cheats it has nothing to do with you and you should never blame yourself. Well not unless you did something really bad that drove him in that direction but still, a man who respects you would not.
So basically when a man cheats, he is the problem. Don’t hang me for saying that men, one of your own said that. He goes on and says, when a woman cheats, then the man is the problem and should ask himself what he did wrong. As much as that is true because women tend to be emotionally attached and loyal, I guess someone will argue that there are some cases where it is different, which is true.
That being said, men are equipped with tools to help them not cheat or desire what isn’t theirs. So if they want they can prevent themselves not to cheat. Dr. Mwaka says a man staying true to one woman and cheating is sacrificing himself for the woman. And for a man to do that, he must have found something that he knows he will never find if he begins to look for it out there and so he sacrifices to keep that. You never know what you have until you lose it, and I guess that is a risk they don’t want to take.
Well after reading all that, I don’t know what you think but I sure still did have a lot of questions by the end of the interview. Let me know what are your thoughts on this topic and drop a comment. This is a topic that I feel will always be debatable with people having different opinions always.
Just Food For Thought.
Someone saw to it that he wrote a retaliation or let’s say a slap back for this article. Title, Are Men Really Awful?