What is the best dating pace?
Is there an answer really for this question? I am sure if you go asking around you will get many different answers. What might be slow to someone might be the right pace and what might be fast to someone might be the opposite for another person entirely. Here is an analogy I can’t remember where I heard it from.
Naturally, it is men who make the first move. But anyone makes the first move nowadays, male or female. So whoever is making the first move, it’s like a business deal. Or let’s say a deal to get a car. Let’s say this person allocated 3 months to get the car. He/she will work really hard to make sure it happens within those 3 months. Maybe he/she has plans that everything has to go through accordingly. But things don’t always go the way we want them to. Now here comes the question, what if you are not able to acquire the car in the 3 months you allocated? Does the zeal you had towards getting it, go away? Or do you spend the money somewhere else? Or do you wait and maybe you might get a better car than you intended? Do you change your plans from 3 months to 6 months and will it be worth it?
Playing Hard to Get
All those questions, different people with have different answers. Someone has a goal of wooing someone in 3 months but the person they are after is playing hard to get. Or rather maybe is not into it the same way you are.
Is playing hard to get a good thing? And if so, to what extent? What if the guy/girl loses their zeal of going after you because the time they allocated is over? I’m thinking playing hard to get is a game. You have to be skilled in it to know how to play the game without pushing the other party too far and still holding their interest. He/she might choose to wait and maybe it will be worth it and get a Maserati instead of a Hyundai, who knows.
Take Your Time or Maximize the Time?
Patience is a virtue and also sometimes you might be wasting your time. Time wasted can never be recovered. So do you take your time to take things slow, get to know what you are getting into well or do you maximize the timeyou have not wastingany time and achieving what you wanted within the time frame you gave yourself?
Whichever you choose, you will be the one to deal with the consequences either good or bad. You might end up with the masserati or maybe not or maybe the hyundai or maybe you end up just wasting your time. But thats’s life.
So what is the best dating pace? Even I can’t really give you an answer. I think this depends entirely on the person. What their goal is, what they are working towards and what they want to achieve. I would like to hear your opinion about this. In the end, I don’t think there’s a specified formula like math.
Just food for thought.
Other work by Rackim,
My First Love: Part 1, full book available;