Life really is challenging and no one knows what it throws at you. Sometimes you think you got it until something comes and throws you off balance. How we manage and go through all that happens is what really matters. Insecurities!!
Talk of insecurities. I thought to myself that I can never be that. I can never be insecure or my self-esteem brought down by anyone. But as it is said, there is always a first time for everything. We are but just human beings who feel after all. It’s all apart of being human. It is funny how those feelings creep in slowly and little by little and if you are not careful to realize what’s happening and stay strong and true to yourself, you might lose yourself, friends, and people you hold dear to you.
There is always going to be someone better than you at something. That doesn’t mean you don’t have something good or something you are good at. There’s always going to be people who have more than you do. That doesn’t mean you are not blessed in other ways. That’s just life. Yes, it is unfair. And when you are on the other end of the have nots looking at the people who have, you might despair, lose hope, look down on yourself and feel like you are lesser.
Knowing your self-worth is really important. And that is something you should never let anyone define about you. If someone cannot appreciate you, see your worth, takes your presence for granted to the extent it makes you feel insecure and not worthwhile remember that there’s always someone out there who is longing for all that. You might not know it but that is always a fact. You are worthwhile to someone. Someone somewhere is longing for that company and appreciates the little time or moments they have with you.
So if someone makes you feel insecure, don’t let that get to you. What you are, who you are, and who you will become is enough! You should give yourself more credit. There’s always something that you have that cannot be found in someone else. There’s always that spark! All you need to do is hold on to it! Anyone who doesn’t see it or appreciate it is not worth your time to mule over it or crawling into a corner and thinking “she/he” is better than me because he/she was chosen over you. The right people in your life will always see you, appreciate you, make time for you, believe in you, and support you even during the times you don’t believe in yourself.
If you don’t have such people in your life, be your own strength until they come along. Do not beg to have someone’s time or attention or even change just for them to notice you. For the right people, you won’t have to do any of that. I am telling all this to you and to myself too because for a moment there I let insecurities get to me and almost forgot I don’t need another person for validation that I am worthwhile no matter what situation I am in. Situations and what you go through do not define you, they don’t define me. So this is a message to myself and anyone who needs to hear this. Do not let go of your-self esteem, your self-worth, and who you are for your insecurities. Just be you, that is enough to get the right people into your life and weed out those who aren’t supposed to be in it. If someone doesn’t see that, don’t beat yourself that you aren’t enough or did something wrong. That’s on them!!! Let go of it and you’d be surprised at how peaceful and happy you’ll be!
And one more thing, God loves you and is always on your side no matter what!