How To Overcome Insecurities; Know You are Worthy

Insecurities and how to overcome them. Being strong!

Life really is challenging and no one knows what it throws at you. Sometimes you think you got it until something comes and throws you off balance. How we manage and go through all that happens is what really matters. Insecurities!!

Talk of insecurities. I thought to myself that I can never be that. I can never be insecure or my self-esteem brought down by anyone. But as it is said, there is always a first time for everything. We are but just human beings who feel after all. It’s all apart of being human. It is funny how those feelings creep in slowly and little by little and if you are not careful to realize what’s happening and stay strong and true to yourself, you might lose yourself, friends, and people you hold dear to you.

There is always going to be someone better than you at something. That doesn’t mean you don’t have something good or something you are good at. There’s always going to be people who have more than you do. That doesn’t mean you are not blessed in other ways. That’s just life. Yes, it is unfair. And when you are on the other end of the have nots looking at the people who have, you might despair, lose hope, look down on yourself and feel like you are lesser.

Knowing your self-worth is really important. And that is something you should never let anyone define about you. If someone cannot appreciate you, see your worth, takes your presence for granted to the extent it makes you feel insecure and not worthwhile remember that there’s always someone out there who is longing for all that. You might not know it but that is always a fact. You are worthwhile to someone. Someone somewhere is longing for that company and appreciates the little time or moments they have with you.

So if someone makes you feel insecure, don’t let that get to you. What you are, who you are, and who you will become is enough! You should give yourself more credit. There’s always something that you have that cannot be found in someone else. There’s always that spark! All you need to do is hold on to it! Anyone who doesn’t see it or appreciate it is not worth your time to mule over it or crawling into a corner and thinking “she/he” is better than me because he/she was chosen over you. The right people in your life will always see you, appreciate you, make time for you, believe in you, and support you even during the times you don’t believe in yourself.

If you don’t have such people in your life, be your own strength until they come along. Do not beg to have someone’s time or attention or even change just for them to notice you. For the right people, you won’t have to do any of that. I am telling all this to you and to myself too because for a moment there I let insecurities get to me and almost forgot I don’t need another person for validation that I am worthwhile no matter what situation I am in. Situations and what you go through do not define you, they don’t define me. So this is a message to myself and anyone who needs to hear this. Do not let go of your-self esteem, your self-worth, and who you are for your insecurities. Just be you, that is enough to get the right people into your life and weed out those who aren’t supposed to be in it. If someone doesn’t see that, don’t beat yourself that you aren’t enough or did something wrong. That’s on them!!! Let go of it and you’d be surprised at how peaceful and happy you’ll be!

And one more thing, God loves you and is always on your side no matter what!

By Rackim.


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14 thoughts on “How To Overcome Insecurities; Know You are Worthy

  1. This is by far the best piece of advice anyone has given me since the year began. Actually, I never take any thought to how many friends I have around me or not. I can’t remember the last time I made a friend even. Doing my thing at my own pace is the new order for me. But, thank you very much. It’s so good to know that there are still some thoughtful people out there. Thanks.

  2. I would like to share some things that have helped me to stop being insecure and build self-esteem.

    1. Confirm my value.
    2. Place in order my needs.
    3. Grip the awkward.
    4. Test my thoughts.
    5. Hang onto the good company.
    6. Step away.
    7. Replicate the good.
    8. Create time for joy.
    I hope this may help others too.

  3. Hi Rackim,

    This is a well-thought-through article. Thank you for making us realize that there will always be someone better than us in whatever we do. Through knowing that, we should remain true to ourselves while working to create a better version of ourselves still.

    Acknowledging that we have something good inside too is the way to go. It is that thread that will lead us on the path to face our insecurities. With God on our side keeping what is good inside of us alive, we can never go wrong.

    Thanks for this lovely read.


  4. This is a great topic, specially for someone who’s going through a bad relationship with a person who doesn’t give 100% of their side. I was in that situation once, when i was younger, it also has to do with insecurities, absolutely right. having a good self esteem with cope with the problem. 

    Great articles and books!

    1. Thank you Anna. Glad your younger self went through that and overcame it. Now you can help others in the same situation.

  5. Hi Rakim, I agree with what you say in your post… a person’s self-esteem is truly important. The only guarantee we have in life is that things change. Accepting this as a fact of life can make an enormous difference to someone’s wellbeing when things change in a way that they find less than useful. Also, we all need a sense of purpose. not necessarily a life purpose, but certainly something to be aiming for (it doesn’t need to be Earth shatteringly huge, just something that we feel we truly want to achieve) and there is nothing wrong with such a purpose changing over time. 

    Wishing you every success in your purpose, 


    1. Thank you Richard. And I do agree with you. Purpose can change over time as you grow and achieve things in life.

  6. A critical article for people who feel insecure in their skin and do not value themselves.
    It is not uncommon for these people to miss the simple fact that when someone says something wrong about them or treats them unpleasantly, for some reason, people take over these unfamiliar thoughts without a doubt, whether they were right or not. That’s where the sign of uncertainty comes off. Sometimes, I think that the person who commented on me doesn’t know me at all to say anything about me. I also believe that people do not believe in themselves for some reason and only see their mistakes.

    1. Yeah, you are right about people commenting about you but do not know you at all. That is definitely something that should not get to us or bother us at all. It says more about that person than it does you.

      Some people take out their insecurities on others!

  7. HI Rackim

    I agree  that you should never rely on anyone to validate you or determine your self worth by the reaction of someone else.

    Have you read the book “The 4 Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz? The author is saying exactly what you were writing about.  One of the hardest agreements for me is, to not take things personally!

    So well done and I am sure you will help other people including myself with your article.  Perhaps if more people were not so sensitive and insecure the world might be more peaceful.

    Wishing you all the best.


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